“I’m kind, caring, loving, generous, affectionate, fun, and want to give my special woman everything in life she deserves…”
This is the beginning of so many candidates on dating sites. I have yet to hear the real truth on any of the people hoping to find a lady and, frankly, it makes me leery of those who have no faults.
How about instead someone says “I’m kind but impatient at times, loving but that doesn’t mean I have no temper, generous up to a point, fun – especially if we’re doing something I enjoy, and want to give my woman everything in life she deserves as long as I decide just what it is she deserves. Might turn some folks off, but trust me, it would be a breath of fresh air from all the ‘perfect’ people on the sites. On the other hand, giving the little woman everything she deserves isn’t exactly saying everything she wants or needs. That’s huge red flag.
Then there are the women who tend to be all sweetness and light. They never look for a wealthy man, love children, are career people, are athletic, a tiny bit overweight or underweight, loves anything the man she chooses loves, kind, caring, generous, etc.
Again, ladies, will it kill you to tell the truth or at least a tiny bit of it? Because, lady, if a man can’t handle the truth, you really shouldn’t want him. Tell him you like kids, but dagnabbit, if he wants them he’d better be ready to help raise them. If you’re a career woman and have no intention of having kids, let it be known. A tiny bit overweight is not twenty, thirty, or more. Girl, you’re hitting chubby and up from there. Likewise, a tiny bit underweight doesn’t mean giving those skeletal, sunken cheeked models a run for their money. Think twice before saying you will love anything your man loves. If you’re anti-gun and he hunts for the joy of it, there could be conflict. How about if he loves to fish and enjoys watching you clean the scaly beasts? If you totally hate sports and he wants ESPN on 24/7, are you willing to spend your life in another room or finding something, anything to do in order not to bother his obsession?
Considering the number of ‘perfect’ divorcees on all the sites, there is something wrong somewhere and perfection isn’t the reason for it…unless it’s because all those divorcees think they are the perfect ones and their spouses weren’t. Of course their spouses may think just the reverse.
If anyone is considering getting on these sites, tell the truth, whether it’s sweet or bitter, because if you find a man or woman willing to accept you with your faults, you’ve found a treasure worth getting to know. Remember, this is a very real case of truth or consequences.