2020 has been difficult for most of us in one way or another. After losing my daughter in 2019, I spent this year – in the midst of all the pandemic and political chaos – trying to properly navigate the grieving process and move forward in a positive way. I made a point of talking… Continue reading Navigating the Grieving Process
Category: Surviving Loss
When a New Widow Needs You Most
Are you there for your friend when she is drowning? Where are you when a new widow needs you most? How many look at the person who is scammed and loses their life savings with pity or anger? How many belatedly try to rescue them from themselves? The real question should be where were you… Continue reading When a New Widow Needs You Most
Dancing to a Senior’s Tune
Dance Like No One’s Watching This morning I found myself dancing to a senior’s tune – mine. Why would I do such a thing, you might ask. Because yesterday, due my own foolishness, I got to stay in bed most of the day recovering from lifting things I should know not to lift. This old… Continue reading Dancing to a Senior’s Tune
Restoring the Foundation to a Crumbling World
A Crumbling Foundation The foundation of your life becomes unsteady when death or divorce removes your spouse. Your foundation shakes. No matter which happens in your life, you lose the partner, the dreams you made together over the years. You may lose the home the two of you built together. Circumstances, totally out of… Continue reading Restoring the Foundation to a Crumbling World
Don’t Let Your Spouse’s Death Kill You As Well
Frankly, I am thoroughly upset today. From the time my father-in-law passed away until the death of the spouse of my new friend, I have noticed one terrible truth. The one left behind stops living, too! Or, they totally lose themselves in the strangeness of once again being single. Not only is it sad; it is… Continue reading Don’t Let Your Spouse’s Death Kill You As Well
How a Senior Found Her Sass
Folks, this Christmas a message came to me from a most unusual source. Four years after the death of my Bruce, the loss of his smile at Christmas hit me hard. Why did it take so long? Why four years afterward? I believe it was supposed to be now and the reason, because this sexy… Continue reading How a Senior Found Her Sass
I Love You
“Why would she write that? I loved her so much. Ask anyone we knew and they will tell you I always talked about how much I loved her.” The distraught husband was shaking after reading the note his wife left for him after taking a full bottle of sleeping pills. Jerry, if during our time… Continue reading I Love You
Widow’s Advice
“Oh, my heavens, if I mop the floor, he and the dog come in with muddy feet! If I clean the toys out of the yard, cut the grass and weed the flower beds, he comes in with a load of lumber and sets it square in the middle of the yard. He’s hoping to… Continue reading Widow’s Advice
Widow’s Melancholy
When we speak of someone being melancholy, the term is often associated with depression and in a way it is. However, for the widow, it is a time to rejoice because melancholy is a step toward rising out of Depression’s depths. It is a time when the laughter stops ending abruptly in tears. It is… Continue reading Widow’s Melancholy
Widow’s Awakening
Is that how it ends for the one left behind? Alone in your home, curled up in bed, as a heart attack ravages your body? Unable to call for help? A mere two weeks ago we, the occupants of what we named Widow’s Row, laughed at how we all fell into the same small subdivision.… Continue reading Widow’s Awakening