Enough already! I constantly see pictures of young couples having all the fun. I can only surmise that you and I are the only ones left in the world with their spouses who have aged above thirty.
So for those of us who did survive to fifty and above, I offer the secrets of a sweet massage to give each other.
Before even attempting this, go to find an absolutely luscious massage oil. No baby oil won’t do except in an emergency. Who wants to smell like a baby while massaging or being massaged? Get one that has an aroma that makes you growl with delight. This oil is going to make the difference between a massage and “Whoa, Baby, that’s some massage!”
Turn on soft romantic music to set the mood. Make certain the room temp is warm enough for a naked body and cool enough to keep your partner awake throughout the whole process.
The professional masseuses insist that a firm surface is the key, but, hey, we are only firm until we stop exercising therefore I say firm or soft, we all deserve some fun. Tonight when you normally slip into that comfy t-shirt or granny gown, skip it or put on a sexy little number, Ladies. Gents, you remember those bikini brief undies she bought you last Christmas? It wasn’t a joke – she wants to see you in them, hon. (However, please remove all clothing when the fun begins. It may feel sexy, but it can take away from the total relaxation of the moment.)
Tell your sweetheart to roll over on his or her tummy, take a few deep breaths and relax. The oil should have been warmed in a bowl of water setting by the bedside. Slather it over your hands and begin kneading those tight, stressed muscles. Work out from any knots you find and gradually work back to them. After a few times of this, those knots will disappear like magic. Lay one hand flat and press it down with the other rotating slowly.
Fleshy areas such as the buttocks and thighs love to be kneaded by having the masseuse lift and squeeze them with palms in full contact with the skin.
Remember this is a soft, sweet, romantic massage given to one you love. Be firm but gentle.
The only thing you have to decide is who will be first?
Such a wonderful idea. When you get older you sometimes avoid the touch of a loved one. The “room mate syndrome” kicks in. You would be surprised how much better the two of you feel touching places long forgotten. People need to be held, touched and given loving consideration. A massage is the very thing…to show you still care.
Bru and I did this and afterward there was no need to make love, as most think of it. Instead, we held each other close, talked about our future and went to sleep in each other’s arms. We both admitted we had never felt so close to one another than during those sweet times.